This could very well be phrased as things I can do and all the things I wish I could do (or things I can’t do), but I’m trying to frame it positively. It might be a good exercise for you to do for yourself and/or your partnership. Or just an interesting way to sit down and evaluate yourself and your goals and priorities for dancing. Looking at strengths and weakness, and what weaknesses you want to turn into strengths in the future.
Let’s start with the good. Some of this has been directly commented on by others, or things I’ve guessed/observed myself.
- Being powerful in standard
- Having decent posture
- Being a generally good follow
- Helping with floorcraft when my partner is going backwards
- Looking elegant (haha, they haven’t seen me in my everyday klutzy mode, but I’ll take it I guess)
- Having a flexible back
- Recuperating after screwing up in action (aka wiping out then getting back up)
- Focusing on the upsides in competition, particularly if the results were not as good as we’d hoped
- Hearing the music
Things to Improve:
- (Not) straightening my right elbow in frame
- Feeling more comfortable doing side-by-side stuff (aka, dancing by myself)
- Remembering choreography
- My Latin, all of it
- Hiding my face expression when I/we screw up
- Using my ankles more
- Making bigger shapes
- Bowing not-awkwardly at the end of a dance
- Waiting before going
It was much easier to come up with things to improve than things I liked. I could’ve kept going for quite a while on the list of things to improve… I feel like this is typical for any aspiring dancer – focusing on what you can fix/be better at, rather than what you can already do. Once you have a decent skill set behind you, it’s easy to perform, get in the mood, and kind of hide those insecurities, I think. Maybe that typical uber-confident “I am sexy/super-classy/awesome” ballroom dancer persona comes out partially for this reason. Trying to fake it ‘til you make it? Or fake it until your technique catches up?
I find a sort of inner discussion happening every time I watch a video of myself, and it’s easier for me to focus on what mistakes I made rather than acknowledging everything I did well. Sample thoughts: “Uuuugh what was that?! What am I doing?!” “Huh, that wasn’t so bad,” “Wow, awkward.” “Oh hey, decent picture line!” “Ew, arms…” But we are often our worst critics, right? And occasionally, what felt like a horrible screw-up barely shows up in the video. Other times, what felt awesome looked….not so awesome. Alright, I’m starting to get a little off-topic here, but I guess the point I’m trying to make is that improvement is a constant journey. Sometimes it’s really good to look back and acknowledge what you’ve gotten better at, and at the same time it’s also good to look forward at what you want to achieve. And really healthy to zoom out and take a good look at both, because if you focus on one, you think you’re great and have little drive to get better, and if you focus on the other, it’s easy to think you’re awful and feel dejected by the whole endeavor. Keeping the balance is probably what’s best in the long run, I’m guessing.
Also, how you frame things matters, to bring in some psychology stuff. “I’m bad at this” vs. “I want to improve at this” have very different effects on how we approach things, even if objectively it’s the same. For example, say you are not so great at posture. Thinking “I have bad posture” vs. “I want to improve my posture” can lead to very different outcomes. The former lends itself to thinking that you’re bad at something and it’ll stay that way, while the latter acknowledges you’re not so great at something but that you can work at it and make it better, and that it’s not something you’re stuck with in the long run.
Overall Things I Want to Be Awesome At:
- Portraying the unique character of each dance (especially being sexy/sultry/seductive/some-other-adjective-starting-with-“S”…I just feel awkward doing that at the moment, haha)
- Having purpose and intent behind everything I do (telling a story? maybe?)
- Being a supportive and responsive partner, in both interpersonal and dance-y senses
- Marrying performance and technique (quite elusive, but sometimes it happens!)
- Having fun every time!