Success is all about your mindset. The struggle is just in your head. Mindset matters. These are all variants on a cliché we’ve heard plenty of times, probably a lot in sports especially. But this is one of those cases in which the cliché reflects the truth, at least when it comes to one particular distinction between two types of mindsets: fixed mindsets versus growth mindsets. This distinction was found by Carol Dweck and her colleagues, and dozens and dozens of correlational studies and experiments have found evidence that mindset matters.
Dweck’s book. Haven’t read it personally, but I’ve heard it’s good.
Basically, a fixed mindset is the idea that each person has a fixed trait that determines their ability. This most often applies to intelligence, but it can be about any skill – so this is the idea that we each have innate talents that determine how good we are at a given activity. Most people think of IQ this way, as something we are born with that cannot be changed, no matter how hard we try. On the flip side, growth mindsets are the idea that we can improve our abilities over time with practice, dedication, and hard work, and that we are not limited by innate talents but instead can nurture them over time. Going with our IQ example, this would be the idea that we can change someone’s IQ with things like education, nutrition, or other environmental factors.
Interestingly, fixed mindsets are tied to performance goals, in other words, trying to demonstrate your ability either to yourself or others, while growth mindsets focus more on improvement and learning, honing that ability over time. Growth mindsets tend to be better for people both in the short and long term, particularly when they are not very skilled at something to begin with. Why? Because if you have a fixed mindset and fail, you are more likely to give up because you think, “I’ll never be better at this.” On the other hand, if you have a growth mindset and fail, you are more likely to think about how you can improve and do better next time. Fixed mindsets for people who initially succeed are nice and all (probably ego-boosting, in fact), but the key difference lies in when people fail, which they inevitably will at some point.
People tend to lean towards having a more fixed or growth mindset as a default, at least when it comes to specific domains such as intelligence or sports performance or just about anything. However, research has also shown that mindsets can be manipulated – if we learn about benefits of growth versus fixed mindsets, then people can shift their perspectives and benefit from the good things that come with growth mindsets.
Why am I telling you all of this? Well, I think it’s inherently really interesting and challenges a lot of people’s naïve theories on how people work, but it’s also super relevant to ballroom dancing. Some people have the idea that they’ll wander in to a class, take a lesson or two, and immediately be able to dance, but us ballroom dancers know it’s not remotely that easy. I would say it takes a year of regular instruction for most people to feel really comfortable with a full repertoire of ballroom styles, and of course many, many more to master them.
For some people, particularly those with a lot of previous dancers (you know who you are, having danced ballet/jazz/tap/etc. basically since being able to walk), ballroom comes very naturally and without much effort or struggle. Sure, you have to correct a few habits, but learning steps is extremely easy. For others, ballroom is fun but much more of a challenge! The pesky alignment thing in standard, learning the difference between all the subtypes of styles, simply remembering what foot goes where. Feeling like a total clod and thinking that it’s near impossible. I was there, back in the day. I had no idea what was happening half of the time, but it was still fun and after a while of mucking around, I realized I would have to put effort, money, and a lot of practice time into learning these skills. Having a growth mindset is really much more conducive to learning and improving, compared to a fixed mindset. Yes, _______ is hard, but once you get it, it’s all that much more rewarding. I do have one caveat – I do think most of us have some innate ability to learn particular skills. There’s no denying that some people are more “natural” at things than others. In dance, some people are more flexible or have a more ideal body shape for a particular style or learn steps faster than others do. However, each of us can make the most of what we have, and sometimes being not so natural at something can produce passion and drive to improve that many of the “naturals” lack.
Anecdotally, one of my friends was better at standard than Latin when he started, placing quite well at competitions in standard. But he decided, I want to be a Latin dancer. That’s what he really enjoyed and aspired to be, so he worked hard at it over time, practiced a lot, and got to be a pretty good Latin dancer. If he had had more of a fixed mindset, thinking he couldn’t get much better at Latin, he might have just stuck to standard or maybe even given up dancing at all.
Every time we advertise the club in effort to recruit new members, I inevitably encounter the same sorts of reasons to not join. “I have two left feet,” “I don’t know how to dance,” “I could never dance like that,” and so on. Very fixed mindset, wouldn’t you say? Hey, that’s where I and 95% of the people in the club started! People have this idea that ballroom dancing’s some magical power that we just have, but we all start as beginners. For those who have been dancing some time and can’t imagine ever reaching some level, be patient with yourself. People tell me, “I could never be as good as you!” Not true. A few years ago, I never would’ve imagined myself competing at pre-champ or champ levels, but here I am (at least, in some styles). It took quite a few years, but it happened. So, if you ever feel like “ugh, I could never do that,” check yourself and remember that with enough hard work and dedication, you totally could. Just keep chugging along.